Balancing love & correction

Lately, my level of patience & showing love has been tested. A fellow friend in Christ got involved with an unbeliever. As much as my heart aches seeing her going against the very thing which we have been taught in Scriptures about BNG relationships, I had to remind myself that I am to love the person & hate the wrong. I wish not to confront (even with much grace within), fearing being shut off from the relationship. But if I were to keep mum, especially when I know that close friends are accountable to each other, then her blood shall fall on my hands. Besides, real friends are there to tell us what is wrong with us even when it hurts. Oh God, I hate confrontations!

Well, needless to say it didn't go too well. The tables were turned against me. It was highlighted that I am not worthy of comment due to certain flaws in my attitude(which I did not deny & telling her, I'm working on it). And the list goes on and on. I know I'm not perfect, but if everyone has to achieve perfection to correct or to teach, no one would end up correcting or teaching. Hmm...Since I couldn't get through to her, I just ended with, what's done, had been done. What happens next is your call. And whatever she chooses, I have to respect! And that I did. I thank God that we're still in talking terms rather than living in animosity with one another!

So, what did I learn from this confrontation times? If the other doesn't buy it, just move on & respect their decision albeit how wrong that decision may be. Continue the friendship. Continue loving & praying. At times, I feel bad coz I felt I may have condemned or judged. But if I were so, I wouldn't be talking to her like our usual normal selves. Nor would I treat the guy kindly if I am judge-gy(if there's such a word). That's what Jesus would do anyway. Coz He's my Master, I would follow Him. 



Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Book spree & CD Spree!!

Yesterday, went gift hunting at Doulos. Supposedly to be gift hunting, nangga2x, bought stuffs for myself. Hehehe..... So at Doulos, I bought 3 books. 1 book is a gift for my coming X'mas party. 2 books for myself. All for RM24. Stinking cheap right? If I buy these books at the local bookstore, it'll cost me somewhere around RM25-RM35 per book. Yeah....dirt cheap. When I thought I was done with my book spree, I came across one section of the ship where they have an offer. 4CDs + 1 doulos bag for RM20. Or 3 books + 1 Doulos bag for RM20. Wowsers! How can I resist!! Off I went & managed to grab 4 CDs. American made CDs are of good quality man. One of the Cds that I picked was a Christian rock group called Decypher Down. I stumbled across this band while I was copying songs to my MP3 player from my bro's PC. I like what I heard & I always wonder how is their full album like. Needless to say it rocks & when I read throught the lyrics of 'Breathe Again', I
Read more

Green Chords-State Level 2009

Image
This is the reason why I drove all the way to Sibu. To lend support to my brother's school marching band, the Green Chords. Before this, I was never a fan. Err wait..before this I've never heard of marching band at all. Of course this all changed after my sibs joined Green Road Sec. School's marching band. See the guy with the tuba. That's my younger bro, Calvin a.k.a Ju. When he first started, i.e. at the age of 13, he was selected to play the tuba. Mind you, he was the sole tuba player for 4 consecutive years. Imagine, he's controlling the bass side of the band...all by himself. Mind you, among all of us siblings, he was never musically trained. It was because of band that he begged my mum to enroll him for piano class..at the age of 14, which is quite late..just to master theory.He plays the tuba..and he has no musical theory background. Apparently, most of his band mates don't have any music background either. Imagine, they were taught to play the instrument
Read more

Blogshy

Hi everyone in the blog community, Well, this is so awkward... Blogging seems to be the 'in-thing' these days. I've been thinking about joining the blogging trend(not that I'm a person who just want to delve into the 'in-thing')but I've been hindered due to thoughts like what am I going to write about & what if I get into trouble with the government(ya right..far fetched am I?). I guess I'm just blogshy, if there's such a word. If it weren't for Daron, my pastor, friend & brother(pastor, these words are mushy & you know how hardcore I am in expressing my feelings..haha!) I won't be doing this. He's the one who encouraged me to blog. & lo & behold, I'm doing this! So viewers, I hope my blog would be entertaining & inspiring. Hopefully, I can get some good out of this.
Read more